Why is your life on Repeat?

I can’t even count one hand how many people ask me why can’t they be loved right , why do they meet the same type/kind of person or why all my relationships end the time. No matter how much advice I give, it seems like the situations always ends the same way. I could never for the life of me understand why people ask you for your opinion and when you give it, it goes in one end and comes out the other.

I am slowly learning that everyone cannot handle or just don’t care for your advice. So this is the last time I am going to tell you my opinion about this situation. You have said that you are at a point in your life, where everything is working well and you are happy. You love yourself and you refuse to let anyone come and disturb your happiness but you will like to share your time with someone else.

When you meet people for some reason they always have issues. Instead of realizing that this is not what you need in your life YOU feel like you can help them with the problem which therefore brings drama in your life. It’s obvious that what this person is bring to the table you do not want to eat because you are going to have a hard time digesting the food. You refuse to see the signs and think that you have some magic to make everything different. This is incorrect.  Please take the time out to get to know this person and look at all the signs they are giving to you. If you guys have been talking for two weeks, there is no reason why he/she should be looking at your phone and regulating who should and should not be calling you. This is a sign.

If he or she is calling constantly asking where you are and have no intentions on seeing you but they need to know where you are at all times…. This is a sign that they are controlling and have insecurities.

Take a second and review all the things that you want and don’t want in your life. If you see these signs no matter how much you like this person talk about them and then decide from there if this is a relationship that you will like to continue. 

Good Luck!

Looking for love in all the wrong places

I can’t even count on one hand how many times I’ve heard “Why can’t I find a good man/woman” or “why do I keep attracting the same kind of person?” The answer is simple…. Are you ready for it? Brace yourself…. It’s because you are looking for this person and when you seek you shall find.

Have you ever heard the saying “A good man/woman is hard to find?” this is because you DON’T FIND THEM THEY FIND YOU! The best things in life are worth waiting for. When we go out and date the reason why we keep attracting the same kind of person, which is usually not right for us is because we are settling for the first thing that makes us comfortable. I can see your face now. Yes you do settled, you settle for what is familiar to you. If you like your partner to have a lot of money to spend on you, then there is a price to pay.

You usually have to give them sex (Which comes with time anyway, and it’s a bonus if its good), be disrespected (Which often comes later when he/she is comfortable with you and know your ways) and you guys don’t spend enough time together because he/she has to get that paper. But you settle because this is something that you are already used to.

Therefore you are willing to deal with the problem. The first thing that usually comes to mind is “Oh he/she is just like ______________ oh well I dealt with this before I am just going to ride it until the wheels fall off. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying that this is true all of the time but most of the time it is.

You have to take time out for yourself. You need to think about what you really want in a mate. If you have your TOP 5 list and if you keep in mind that you should not DATE WITHOUT A PURPOSE maybe….. Just maybe you will be one step closer in finding a mate that is right for you. Step out of your box and explore the world. (Not literally but open your dating options) “You never know” is what my daddy always says! The right person for you might be the person that YOU never thought would be right for you…..

Live a little….Happy exploring!

I'm Committed... What about you?

The year now is 2010 and so many things have changed. We have a high unemployment rate and people are still getting laid off. This economy is hurting just as bad as we are. This is just one of the reason why you should go out and VOTE. Often times I hear “my vote doesn’t count” but they do! All those people who complain that their vote doesn’t count are the first ones to complain about something that government is doing wrong. Help Fix the problem and go out and vote. I am committed and I hope you are too…. See you at the polls! Also don't forget to turn your ballot over and vote on term limits. :-)