Thursday, December 9, 2010

Don’t open up to fast!

Women are very talkative and we try so hard to impress the person of the opposite sex. Especially on a date, we want to tell this man everything we have done in our lives and even fabricate a few things thinking it will help us earn more brownie points. 

Often times we don't realize that we are actually boring him and helping him lose interest faster. What ends up happening is that we tell him everything about ourselves on the first date that by the time the second date comes around (If there is a second date) he already know what he needs to know about you.... why? because you already told him. No one wants to go on a date where the person is talking non stop and wont allow you to get a word in. 

Also no one wants a date that is filled with silence. IF this should ever happen to you, and you still want to spend time with him the best place for you guys to go is to the movies. That way after the movie you can have something to talk about. Hints..... eliminating the dead air. The worst thing that could happen is that you have talked so much about yourself that he really doesn't care to share anything about his self with you. 

Never bring up pass relationships on your date: Think about it do you really want to know how much he loved his ex and all the things that she did wrong in their relationship. I don’t and neither does he. So that is a topic that should not come up….. Especially on the first date. If he happen to ask you “So what happened in your last relationship?”… It is best to just keep it short and simple. You should just say: Things didn’t work with us. We both were on different path and heading in different directions!” end of that topic…. NEXT

"Too many women tell intimate details of their lives way too soon. This is not only unwise, but also it doesn't work. No man wants to be the recipient of a therapy session upon first meeting you. No man wants to hear how wrong or messed up your life has been before he really loves you." ~ Taken from the "Rules"  

After the first date a man should only know the facts: your name, your profession, how many siblings you have, where you went to college, where you grew up and your favorite restaurant. I would even go as far as what type of movies you like.  I can hear your thoughts going a mile a minute trying to figure out how can your date be filled with only this information. 

This can help determine the things you have in common as well offer you a lot of room to explore his mind. Guess what... you two might have went to the same college. This way you guys can discuss what you liked and didn't like about that particular school. 

Remember the person who talks too much has the most to lose! I am not saying that you shouldn't talk... I am just saying don't talk to much.

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